You do. You are just scared to make a choice and by all means, you are scared to stand by that choice. It is a matter of freewill and it is a very challenging and interesting subject.
What’s difficult, is to realize how and when we’re giving up control of our choices by saying “I can’t”. Instead, switch to saying, “I choose to/not to”, which is a more honest and accurate answer. It’s hard to say and it sucks, but it’s true and that’s often how the truth will always be – it stings.
Rather than to assume feeling helpless, what if we turn it the other way around by owning up to the realities that we created for ourselves and assume responsibility to it? What if we stop acting like we have no control over our situations but rather begin acting to have power to make our choices?
To be honest, just the sound of it makes everything much, much harder than what it looks like. Because as soon as we accept the responsibility and admit that we have a choice, the possibility of coming face to face of making a poor choice is of a small but powerful perception of a possible failure.
And so we stick to ending statements such as, “I can’t do it”, “I can’t afford it”, “I don’t have time for it” instead of asking ourselves the HOW question – “How can I do it?”, “How can I afford it?”, “How can I have time for it?”. We tend to use ending statements because this is our ability to remove all the blame from ourselves.
You know what, though?
It’s all a choice, even if we don’t admit it. Choices are hard to make, so we make it easy by just getting rid of it before we even have to make them. Hey! It is worth our time to sit down, reflect on it, and be honest with ourselves.
We make choices every day, every hour, every minute – and admitting that we have a choice opens up infinite possible choices for many things and circumstances. Having this mindset changes our perception on how we treat ourselves and others, how we spend our time and money, and how we invest feelings.
Most importantly, what changes will there be if we start to choose ourselves instead of letting our circumstances choose for us? We begin to live with purpose, though it sounds harder, it is worthier. It may be a life with dodge and slide, but it is also a life with more chance of freedom and joy that only occurs from making choices.
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